Thursday, August 28, 2014

LIVING OUR LIVES LOOKING DOWN

Dana Corbit here. This morning while I was driving our second daughter back to her college campus, I passed a young woman pushing a stroller. Only instead of interacting with the happy and alert baby in a stroller, she was texting...all the way down the road. I told my daughter that this was a commentary on our times, but my clever child quipped that the real commentary on our times was that I would tweet about it later. Close. I'm blogging about it instead. I'll just tweet the link for it later.

Now I don't want to be too critical of this young mother, who might have had something really important to share just then. I also might have been hypersensitive today as I was sending my baby away while hers was right there waiting to laugh with her. Still, this woman unknowingly reminded me of how much of our lives are really spent looking down at our Smartphones and tablets and today's unbeatable level of Candy Crush. I personally don't have a few of those things, but I'm pretty addicted to Facebook updates and Grumpy Cat videos, so I'm including myself here.




Our need to stay connected to our friends, family and strangers that we only really know from their photos, Scripture memes and 140 characters of brilliance sometimes prevents us from seeing sunsets, noticing people who stop ahead of us at the mall and having full eye-contact conversations with the people right there with us. The first time I noticed this phenomenon was a few years ago at a high school football game. I watched a whole row of students sitting together and texting people who were somewhere else. Now that sight no longer surprises me or anyone else.


I'm not even talking about texting and driving right now, which is deadly and should simply be off the table as an option. I'm talking about texting or social-media scrolling while walking down the street, hanging out with friends, eating at restaurants, attending church services and even participating in work meetings. We're always somewhere else instead of spending time in the now...the only moment God has promised us.

During our oldest daughter's college orientation, the leader told students to leave their phones in their rooms and "be in the moment." That's a good reminder for all of us. There are so many beautiful sights to see in this world, great conversations to be shared - out loud - and even hilarious jokes to be told in real time instead of through a YouTube video.We all need to remember to take time to talk to each other - sans phone - and enjoy these moments that we'll never get back. And while we're lifting our eyes from those little screens, we need to remember to keep looking up.



15 comments:

Connie Bretes said...

Hi Dana, I agree with your assessment. I get so mad at my hubby when we sit down for dinner at night or breakfast in the morning. He's got to have his smartphone with him and sometimes spend more time with that then he does with me!

Dana Corbit said...

That's so frustrating, Connie. I think the highest compliment you can pay someone is to look at her and listen to her when she speaks.

Rohn Federbush said...

Thank you, Dana. I do it.
Rohn Federbush

Dana Corbit said...

Thanks, Rohn.

Maris said...

I love my smart phone, but you're right Dana, there's a time and place for it, and I don't think that time or place is during a meal, while driving, or even while walking. Let's hope that mother quickly finished her text (and that it was important) and then put the phone away and paid attention to her child.

Diane Burton said...

One of the things I love about FB is reconnecting with people I knew a while back and keeping in touch with nieces & nephews and watching their children grow. I agree, Dana, about not being so wrapped up in our phones and social media that we don't pay attention to the here and now.

Melissa Keir said...

It's a sign of the times. Can you imagine how much it will continue to change as technology becomes more important. I'm sure my own grandparents would be shocked at the changes in TV, let alone that I watch it during dinner!

Dana Corbit said...

Yes, Maris, there is a time and place for our phones. Our daughter used hers to help us navigate our way out of Detroit when we were stuck in all of the flooding. We liked it a lot then.

Dana Corbit said...

Diane, I agree Facebook is great for reconnecting with family and friends. But then I catch myself watching cat videos and other things when I should be writing.:)

Dana Corbit said...

I guess it is a sign of the times. Wonder what the next big thing will be.

Jennifer said...

I can't stand people who drive or walk and text while doing these activies and think nothing bad will happen.
My rules with iPod or phones is that while in church or walking they are put away.
Thank you for a great post Dana.

Dana Corbit said...

Good rules, Jennifer. Ours has always been no phones at the dinner table.

Patsy said...

Terri, I agree, folks do too much texting and checking their phones. I have a family member that I think his phone is glued to his hand!

Dana Corbit said...

Thanks, Patsy. I'm guessing you meant that for me. Don't we all have a few family members who are like that. :)

Linda Kish said...

It's not okay to ignore your kids for your phone. What is that teaching them?